Oh I could write a memoir on today’s word. I could give you personal examples of times I’ve been beat with the hypocrisy of a narcissist. I’m going to go a different route.
I will say however, that once a liar always a liar. There are layers, and when they get caught not only do they turn on you, but they will turn others on you too! Those you think have your back-they don’t. They will leave you and hate you as fast as you can blink. No explanations. It hurts and you will drive yourself to the edge of insanity trying to figure out what happened. You are worth more.
When those times of confusion and despair are choking you with their bare hands, read God’s word. He is the only one who matters! Surround yourself with those who truly love you unconditionally. Because regardless of what the narcissist has told you, you are loved and cherished.
Many who end up being plagued by one of these people, have survived and come out of situations many people wouldn’t. That in itself gives you the strength to know that you deserve more. That there is a plan for you. It doesn’t mean that the mental and emotional beatings will suddenly not replay in your mind.
Get help to heal!
There is NO shame in making yourself whole again. Even if you can’t just walk away yet, usually because of finances, (leave if you can) you can still go to therapy to get you back. The road is long and tiring, but you are worth it.
It is hard to write this and not talk about all the negative. The fact is if you’re surrounded by this type of person you have enough of that on your plate.
You are enough, you are good, you are worthy, you are beautiful, you matter, you are wanted, you are smart, you are strong, and you are not alone!