This is my brain on ADHD child overload and regular long day meltdown. More recently I feel like this is daily.
The last two days have appeared more frustrating than usual. There’s extra on my plate, and honestly I’m having a hard time keeping it together.
I don’t want to fail my son. I battle with understanding the difference in a normal 10 year old’s behavior versus the behavior of a ten year old with Combined type ADHD. If you don’t have a child with this kind of diagnosis, please keep your rude comments and unfounded know it all opinions to yourself. Yes, I realize that came across rude. However, I’m sick and tired of people judging my parenting and blaming me for not being “hard” enough on my son. Our children need an advocate, and if your thoughts are all negative, well we don’t need or want your help.
The struggle is real. And it’s hard. And people don’t get it. As parents, we blame ourselves anyway. We definitely don’t need someone else’s help in that. Thanks but no thanks. And in blaming ourselves, we are questioning the child that God gave us to parent in the first place! God planned some great things for our child’s lives! But because of man’s skewed thoughts and opinions, we end up questioning ourselves. By doing that, we question God and the hamster on the wheel can’t get off.
One of the best things I’ve seen says that ADHD is not an excuse, but an explanation. Their wiring is different. So as parents, we need to adjust and learn how to approach them so they can be successful. Diet changes, behavior therapy, more self control during their rough moments, and constant reassurance.
And not only do they need grace, but so do we. Parenting such a gift is mentally exhausting. Support us and be open minded. If not then by all means just be quiet.
I saw the following on Pinterest and loved it. I believe it’s going to be very helpful in this journey.
And I’m thinking of ordering this book:
The Impulsive, Disorganized Child: Solutions for Parenting Kids with Executive Functioning Difficulties https://www.amazon.com/dp/1618214012/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_w6sFAbV1VQYSQ
It’s not gonna hurt anything right? And for the record, while I question my parenting skills often I can say that I am doing the very best that I can.