Am I coming off as rude? My apologies. To the point is how I choose to look at it today. Although I find that as I get older it is more on a daily basis. We have this book called the Bible, and people seem to just want to walk away from it. I wish I had know it better sooner. I can’t change the past. So I move on and try to learn and do better.
We all have moments of frustration. Usually at a situation or a person in an uncomfortable situation. Either way, there are times when we let our anger get the best of us. It is really just our hurt feelings that come out as anger. At some point you apologize, forgive, and go on with your life.
What do you do when you change your behavior and someone else does not? I would like to say pray. That is very true. However, you are not just praying for that person. You need to pray for yourself. I pray for God to give me wisdom and guidance. Daily. So the word of the day is RESPECT.
a feeling of deep admiration for someone or something elicited by their abilities, qualities, or achievements:
“the director had a lot of respect for Douglas as an actor”
the state of being admired or respected:
“his first chance in over fifteen years to regain respect in the business”
due regard for the feelings, wishes, rights, or traditions of others:
“respect for human rights”
(respects)a person’s polite greetings:
“give my respects to your parents”
We all have people that we admire, or respect. Grandparents, parents, military, law officers and first responders. Teachers or neighbors. Friends and church family. It seems pretty simple right?
Well the person that you are annoyed with for cutting you off on the highway? The name you called them? Disrespect. Not cleaning up after yourself or seeing something someone else did not clean up and pretending you did not see it? Disrespect. Selfishness. It’s not always about you. What I have noticed is that disrespect and selfishness walk holding hands.
We don’t always agree. Be it due to personal opinions, values, social pressures, etc. That in itself does not mean you have the right to disrespect another person. We have all been there-but you must learn from it. Not continue to do it. If you can’t compromise and agree to disagree, you are not learning nor are you teaching anything.
informalNORTH AMERICANshow a lack of respect for; insult:
“a young brave who disrespects his elders”
So even though I do not agree with you, I have no right to call you an idiot, dumb butt, stupid, ignorant, lazy, waste of time, you should get the point I am trying to make. That is disrespect. Treating someone like they are below you because they think differently or even do things differently is disrespectful. If someone does not live up to your expectations? They are not being disrespectful. They are being human, and you need to pull the stick out of your own butt. People are not perfect and not everyone is going to do the things the same way you do them. Does that make them wrong? No. Does that make you wrong? No. It simply means that what works for you does not necessarily work for them. By trying to bully them into doing things your way, you are being disrespectful. You are pushing that loved one/friend/coworker further away than you think. Someone may be trying to do things to the best of their ability. Just because you don’t think they are does not open the way for you to poop on them. You are not justified in your belittling, shaming, projecting, manipulating, verbal and emotional abuse. You may think that is too strong of a word, but that is what it is. The only person you need to be working your best for is God. I can promise you if you are doing these things to other people, that falls on no one else but you. It is your choice to be consistently hateful to someone else. They don’t need to answer to you because you do not rule them. Everyone answers to the glorious man upstairs. AMEN!
One of my favorite scriptures I found is Proverbs 29:14 MSG.
“Leadership gains authority and respect when the voiceless poor are treated fairly.”
There you go-leadership does not give you the right to be disrespectful. Many times people who are in leadership positions think the same principles apply in the home. However, that is far from true. Your coworker and your spouse/family are different people. They should be treated that way. Unfortunately, most of the time it is the loved ones that get treated with disrespect. People who are selfish and always accuse others of being disrespectful tend to be the ones committing the crime.
That’s not to say you can’t have an opinion. It means you have to know when your mouth is going to be hurtful and disrespectful. No, I do not agree with our President and the downward spiral I feel he has been a part of leading our country down. That is my personal opinion. You don’t have to like it, but I can’t shove it down your throat. You can disagree, and that is okay. I love you anyway because that is what God calls us to do. I pray over our President. l respect him because the fact of the matter is that he is doing a job I am not qualified for. See how simple that is?
Ephesians 5:21 MSG “Out of respect for Christ, be courteously reverent to one another.”
Proverbs 14:2 MSG “An honest life shows respect for God; a degenerate life is a slap in his face.”
Proverbs 11:16 MSG “A woman of gentle grace gets respect, but men of rough violence grab for loot.”
Titus 3:1 MSG “Remind the people to respect the government and be law-abiding, always ready to lend a helping hand. God’s people should be bighearted and courteous.”
Thank you God for your grace, and Jesus for dying for our sin. Please forgive us for continuing the sins you died for. Change is up to us, and our relationship with our Lord is up to us. Share his love. We are called to do so. Learn love and respect.